Felicia McCaw’s Exercise Assignment - CLASS - INTERVIEW AND COUNSEL

Felicia McCaw
Sociology/Psychology 300
Interviewing &
Counseling

Felicia McCaw’s Exercise Assignment

Individual Practice
Exercise 2
Page 258

Practicing Confrontation of Incongruity

“A client breaks eye contact, speaks slowly, and slumps in the chair while saying, “Yes, I really like the idea of getting to the library and getting the career information you suggest. Ah . . . I know it would be helpful for me.”

I understand that you like the idea of getting to the library and getting the career information that would be helpful for you as I suggested, but on the other hand you appear to be hesitant to go.

“Yes, my family is really important to me. I like to spend a lot of time with them. When I get this big project done, I’ll stop working so much and start doing what I should. Not to worry.”

Okay, according to you your family is really important to you and you like to spend time with them, but on the other hand you not worried about the needed quality time your family needs until you get a big project done.

“My partner is good to me most of the time---this is only the second time he’s hit me. I don’t think we should make a big thing out of it.”

Your partner is good to you most of the time and this is the second time he struck you and you don’t want to blow it out of proportion, but on the other hand you appear to be uncertain if whether or not you should report this.

“My daughter and I don’t get along well. I feel that I am really trying, but she doesn’t respond. Only last week I bought her a present, but she just ignored it.”

Okay, your daughter and you don’t get along and you have tried to reach her and bought her a present and she ignored it, but on the other hand have you tried to sit down and talk with her to make peace.









Felicia McCaw
Sociology/Psychology 300
Interviewing &
Counseling
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Individual Practice
Exercise 4
Page 260

Writing Model Confrontation Statements

Level 1

Denial – I don’t care about the second income she brings in.

Level 2

Partial Examination – Okay, you are right I do want her to work and bring in the second income.

Level 3

Acceptance and Recognition –

She still needs to work to bring in extra money but I still expect her to do the housework.

Level 4

(Generation of a New Solution)

I agree I have been chauvinistic, but she does need to work and does need help with the housework.

Level 5

(Transcendence: Development of new, larger, and more inclusive constructs, patterns, behaviors):

I am glad we had this talk and from here on I will help with the housework while she works also.

SECOND PART

Writing Model Confrontation Statements

Level 1

Denial – I am not taking the easy way out and avoiding you or avoiding contact.


Felicia McCaw
Sociology/Psychology 300
Interviewing &
Counseling
Page 2

SECOND PART
Writing Model Confrontation Statements
(continued)

Level 2

Partial Examination – Okay, I am not very communicative but I am busy right now and don’t have time to socialize.

Level 3

Acceptance and Recognition – Alright, you are right I am uneasy about getting too close to people and I feel more comfortable being distant.

Level 4

(Generation of a New Solution)

Perhaps, you are right I do need to be less apt to put distance between me and others.

Level 5

(Transcendence: Development of new, larger, and more inclusive constructs, patterns, behaviors):

Okay, you were right all along I need to meet people and mingle and be more stable and consistent in my relationships.